When we
grow up….
It’s a very common
notion among the general mass of people that adolescence is period when a child
needs most of the protection; Protection from the luring of evil traps that
teenagers commonly fall prey to. It’s not only these traps that pose a certain
amount of danger to the growing people but also other more intriguing aspects
such as peer pressure, and the urge to stand out from the crowd. There are
various discussions that say that teenagers often get confused about the status
they belong to. In a sudden spur of hormones and brain development, they tend
to get carried away with the mass. In Indian context it has been observed that
there is significant level of drug abuse among the youth aged between 17-20.
Most of the people often blame the child’s upbringing in their family but most
people often miss the fact that drug abuse is more often than not related to
various external factors like poverty, malnutrition and population explosion.
The urban people though have a different mentality about drug abuse. They
believe that certain things are necessary to be indulged so that they are
accepted in a certain group. That is where intervention is required by parents
or counselors. The general biology during these time period is about the brain
development that takes place during these growing years which is the
development of the prefrontal cortex. The prefrontal cortex is more involved in
planning, decision making, and reasoning. The variation in maturity that we
observe among individuals is mainly due to the degree of variation in the
development of this part of the brain.
In a research carried
out by a sociologist in Canada stated that, 85 % of the people in their
adolescence and early adulthood trust their peers and friends for emotional
support and not on their parents whereas the scenario is different in India
where studies reveal that youths believe that parents have their child’s best
interest in mind. Another factor governing the fact that modern parents
complain about their child is they turning rebellious and disobedient during
the growing years. It could be partially blamed on the fact that Indian parents
tend to be often over protective about their child which can create an aura of
desperation among the child. Frankly, no one would like to be embarrassed in
front of their friends when a simple young boy says no to attend a slumber
party or a sleepover at a friend’s home. The brittle trust issue between the
parent and the child is often exposed in this case. This is contradictory to
the scenario that we know is prevalent in the west. Parents there are more
encouraging and often are frank about discussions about drugs or alcoholism at
an early age. Thus the child also feels comfortable about sharing certain
experiences and the mistakes they commit and can also learn from it quickly. In
India, matters on similar topics are often not discussed with their child at
the right age, as a result of which people generate wrong conceptions about
sensitive issues like alcoholism and sexuality. After the recent declaration by
the US Supreme Court on same sex marriages being legalized in US, a common
troll post went viral all over facebook which said that in India boys still
always can’t marry the girl of their choice. The irony in this statement is
quite deep and brings up issues like caste and differences among the various
classes of society.
Another common
problem among Indian youth is the fact that they judge people a lot based on
the factors which are more materialistic often missing out the simple fact of
life that these things only matter till a certain point. It is often said by
NRIs that, there is no differentiation among people in the based on the clothes
they were which do not mean that people should have wrong dress sense for
certain occasions but implies that this should be a factor to differentiate
among people. After all we all are human beings and are flawed. Blood is red.
It all boils down to priorities in life. A person might enjoy hanging out with
friends in discos or parties or a person might enjoy the calmness and serenity
of a library, it all depends on the person’s mentality and thought process. A
person attending a lot of parties may have a brilliant educational background
or a person indulging in reading books may fake the entire thing. We can’t judge
based on these things.
It is often said,
that we can know a person by the friend he or she keeps but this might n not be
true always because to know a person completely, to understand the psyche
behind their actions or words, sometimes even a lifetime might fall short. We
should instead try to built a more value based educational system where moral
values are incorporated in a child more rather than focusing on their personal
lives or the life they choose to live. Who knows an alcoholic might be a good person
too. So let’s take a breath and stop thinking about people from a low point of
view. Let’s bring in a sense of equality and hope that the changes are often
more accepted and that everything happens for a reason.
Debanjan Kundu
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